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Is having a boyfriend embarrassing?
“Is having a boyfriend embarrassing?”
The infamous Vogue article made us question it for a little.
But after reading the full article, I think we all (or most) agrees with what it says.
Having a partner it's not what's embarrassing; more the loss of oneself in another's shadow.
The moment you forget yourself to fit into the expectation of someone who doesn't see you. The moment you lose your own spark to not outshine the other one.
What is embarrassing is not living to your full potential.
Being watered down because that's what was expected of a woman; to be silent, docile and owned by someone else.
Right now having a boyfriend it's not what makes you a woman, it's not an achievement you brag about.
Traditional roles are breaking and since that, we question everything around it.
We no longer accept that old destiny, and so we instinctively reject anything minimally related.
We're independent and valuable for ourselves and we don't want to take a step back on this "fight".
Loving someone is not the problem, what's shameful is being summarised as someone's girlfriend and not your own person.
The point of the article isn't encouraging women to stay single forever, just until you are truly ready -because before you can love anyone else, you have to learn to love the one person who’s FORCED to spend every moment with you (yourself).
Only then does caring for another become an act of choice, not dependency. Then you can be your own person with another whole person.
Love can be incredibly warm, but it can also feel ice cold.
What Vogue is really asking is: How much of you remains once love entered the room?